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Queer Words

Below is a list of queer words provided by Colin Jon david Stewart. Note that the language is fluid and may change and shift over time. Do not consider this an exhaustive, static list!

 

 

Asexual: A person who does not experience sexual attraction. May experience romantic attraction. Also referred to as ace.

Allosexual: A person who experiences sexual attraction. Considered the norm.

Aromantic: A person who does not experience romantic attraction. May experience sexual attraction. Also referred to as aro.

Alloromantic: A person who experiences romantic attraction. Considered the norm.

Androsexual: A person sexually attracted to either the male gender, people with penises, and/or masculine presentation.

Andromantic: A person romantically attracted to either the male gender, people with penises, and/or masculine presentation.

Androgynous: Presentation that contains both masculine and feminine traits.

Agender: A gender identity referring to having no gender.

Ally: A cisgender and straight person who supports the individuals of the queer and LGBTQIAP-etc. communities.

AFAB: Assigned Female At Birth. Also FAAB, Female Assigned At Birth, or DFAB, Designated Female At Birth.

AMAB: Assigned Male At Birth. Also MAAB, Male Assigned At Birth, or DMAB, Designated Male At Birth.

 

 

Bisexual: A person who is sexually attracted to people of their gender or sex, as well as people of other genders or sexes. Also referred to as bi.

Biromantic: A person who is romantically interested in people of their gender or sex, as well as people of other genders or sexes. Also referred to as bi.

Binary: Referring to the social construct of two genders – male and female – that are considered the norm.

Bigender: A person who has two genders that they experience simultaneous and/or separately. These genders could both be binary, could both be non-binary, or could be a mix.

Butch: Masculine in appearance or behavior. Typically used by female identified folk, or lesbian identified folk.

 

 

Cisgender: A person who identifies with the gender that they were assigned at birth. Also referred to as cis.

Cisnormative: The assumption that a person’s gender identity, gender expression, pgp, and sex are all the same, and that that is the normal and preferred way to be.

Cis woman: An AFAB person who identifies as female.

Cis man: An AMAB person who identifies as male.

Cross dressing: Wearing clothes that are considered abnormal of your gender identity.

Closeted: A queer or LGBTQIAP-etc. person who has not told some or all of the people around them about their true self, and is still considered the cisgender heterosexual monoamorous norm.

Coming Out: When a queer or LGBTQIAP-etc. person tells the people around them about their true self, and steps out of the cisgender heterosexual monoamorous norm previous placed upon them.

 

 

Demisexual: A person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone first. Also referred to as demi.

Demiromantic: A person who does not experience romantic attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone first. Also referred to as demi.

Drag: Dressing up in exaggerated gender roles – hyper femininity, hyper masculinity, a literal half and half outfit depicting male and female, etc. – for performance.

Drag Queen: A usually male identified person who dresses up in hyper feminine drag.

Drag King: A usually female identified person who dresses up in hyper masculine drag.

Demigender: A person who identifies partially as a specific gender.

Demigirl: A person whose gender identity is somewhere in the spectrum of girl, feminine, or woman, but not quite, always, or even primarily.

Demiboy: A person whose gender identity is somewhere in the spectrum of boy, masculine, or male, but not quite, always, or even primarily.

Demienby: A person whose gender identity is somewhere in the spectrum of non-binary, genderqueer, or gendervariant, but not quite, always, or even primarily.

Dyke: A slur used primarily against assumed lesbians and lesbian identified people, which in some queer and LGBTQIAP-etc. communities is being reclaimed.

 

 

Enby: A shortening of non-binary. Also written as NB.

Ey/Em/Eir: Gender neutral pronouns that come from the shortening of they, them, and their, by removing the ‘th.’

 

 

Female: A binary gender identity that is considered the norm, often misconstrued with being born with a vagina.

Femme: Feminine in appearance or behavior. Commonly used by lesbian women and gay men.

Fag: A slur used primarily against assumed gay men and gay male identified people that is being reclaimed by some queer and LGBTQIAP-etc. communities. An abbreviation of faggot.

FTM: Female to Male. Used by trans people who are AFAB who identify as male.

FTA: Female to Agender. Used by trans people who are AFAB who identify as agender.

FTNB: Female to Non-Binary. Used by trans people are AFAB who identify as non-binary, genderqueer, or other genders that aren’t considered the norm.

Fae/Faer/Faers: Less commonly known gender neutral pronouns.

 

 

Gay: A person who identifies as homosexual. Typically used to refer to homosexual men, but is also used as a coverall term by many queer and LGBTQIAP-etc. people, as well as specifically by homosexual women.

Gynosexual: A person who is sexually attracted to either the female gender, people with vaginas’, and/or feminine presentation.

Gynoromantic: A person who is romantically interested in either the female gender, people with vaginas’, and/or feminine presentation.

Graysexual: A person who experiences sexual attraction very rarely. Also referred to as grace.

Grayromantic: A person who experiences romantic interest very rarely. Also referred to as grace.

Gender Binary: The classification of sex and gender into two distinct, opposite, and disconnected forms, of female femininity with she, her, and hers pronouns and male masculinity with he, him, his pronouns, that shuts out all non-binary pronouns, genders, and presentations.

Gender Identity: How someone self identifies their gender or genders.

Gender Expression: How someone chooses to visually express their gender. Somebody’s entire appearance is not always synonymous with their gender expression.

Genderqueer: A person who does not identify with a binary gender, but as neither, both, a combination of genders, a third gender, or something else.

Genderfluid: A person who identifies with a dynamic shift and mix in their gender between two or more genders.

Gendervariant: A person who identifies as a non-binary gender.

Genderneutral: A person whose gender feels neutral, not absent.

Genderless: A person who does not identify with any gender.

Gendervoid: A variant of agender, referring to ones gender feeling like a lot of nothing, but a little something.

 

 

Heterosexual: A person who is sexually attracted to people of the opposite gender, typically used by people of binary gender identities.

Heteronormative: Assuming that everyone you see is heterosexual and heteroromantic, and that that is the normal and preferred way to be.

Homosexual: A person who is sexually attracted to people of the same gender, typically used by people of binary gender identities.

Heteroromantic: A person who is romantically interested in people of the opposite gender, typically used by people of binary gender identities.

Homoromantic: A person who is romantically interested in people of the same gender, typically used by people of binary gender identities.

Heteroflexible: A person who is usually interested in the opposite gender, but occasionally is interested in the same gender. Might also be used to include non-binary folk. Typically used by people of binary gender identities.

Homoflexible: A person who is usually interested in the same gender, but occasionally is interested in the opposite gender. Might also be used to include non-binary folk. Typically used by people of binary gender identities.

He/Him/His: Binary pronouns associated heavily with the male gender. Sometimes used by non-binary people.

(She)/Her/Hers: Binary pronouns associated heavily with the female gender. Sometimes used by non-binary people.

Hir/Hirs: Commonly used non-binary pronouns within the queer and LGBTQIAP-etc. community. A play on combining he and her in pronunciation.

Hu/Humes: An uncommon non-binary pronoun.

 

 

Intersex: A person who is born with some variant of physical, hormonal, and chromosomal traits of both the male and female sexes.

It/Its: Uncommon controversial non-binary pronouns.

 

 

Lithromantic: A person who does not need and/or want their romantic feelings to be returned, and sometimes will lose feelings of attraction if they are.

Lesbian: Typically used by female identified people who also identify as homosexual. Sometimes used by non-binary identified people, and by polysexual and polyromantic female identified people.

LGBTQIAP-etc.: An acronym of varying length to refer to the community of people with identities that aren’t considered the norm.

 

 

Male: A binary gender identity that is considered the norm, often misconstrued with being born with a penis.

MTF: Male to Female. Used by trans people who are AMAB who identify as female.

MTA: Male to Agender. Used by trans people who are AMAB who identify as agender.

MTNB: Male to Non-Binary. Used by trans people are AMAB who identify as non-binary, genderqueer, or other genders that aren’t considered the norm.

Monoamorous: Being in a relationship with one person at a time. Comes from mono being one, and amorous being love.

Monosexual: A person who is sexually attracted to a single gender or sex. Homosexual, heterosexual, gynosexual, and androsexual are all monosexual identities.

Monoromantic: A person who is romantically attracted to a single gender or sex. Homoromantic, heteroromantic, gynoromantic, and androromantic are all monoromantic identities.

 

 

NB: An abbreviation of non-binary. Also written as enby.

Non-binary: Any gender that is not male or female, which are the binary genders.

Neutrois: A non-binary gender which is neutral or null.

 

 

Out: A queer or LGBTQIAP-etc. person who is not closeted about their true self and lives as their true self.

Outting: When somebody knows another’s queer or LGBTQIAP-etc. identity and reveals it without permission, or without knowing that that person is closeted.

 

 

Pansexual: A person who is sexually attracted to people regardless of sex, gender identity, or gender expression. Also referred to as pan.

Panromantic: A person who is romantically interested in people regardless of sex, gender identity, or gender expression. Also referred to as pan.

Polysexual: A person who is sexually attracted to multiple genders or sexes. Bisexual and pansexual are both polysexual identities.

Polyromantic: A person who is romantically interested in multiple genders or sexes. Biromantic and panromantic are both polyromantic identities.

Pangender: A gender identity that refers to having many genders which may be experienced together, separately, and/or in flux. Usually more than two.

Pronouns: The way you refer to somebody you do not know the name of, or are not actively referring to with their name.

PGP: Either: Personal Gender Pronouns; or Preferred Gender Pronouns.

Polyamorous: Having multiple relationships at once. Comes from poly being many, and amorous being love.

Passing: A controversial term used to refer to a binary trans person who is able to be seen as their gender identity without confusion, transphobia targeting them, or messed up pronouns.

 

 

Queer: A word reclaimed by many LGBTQIAP-etc. communities, and then used as either a generic coverall for the community and/or a sexuality or romantic identity that isn’t straight.

Questioning: The process of exploring one’s sexual orientation, romantic orientation, preferred pronouns, or gender identity.

(P)Qiltbag: An acronym for the queer and LGBTQIAP-etc. community pronounced quilt bag. Considered far more inclusive than LGBT.

 

 

Romantic Attraction: An emotional response that often results in the desire to pursue a romantic relationship with somebody, but not necessarily a sexual one.

Romantic Orientation: The pattern of somebody’s romantic attractions. Also romantic identity.

 

 

Sexual Attraction: Seeing somebody and immediately or eventually having the resulting desire to pursue a sexual relationship with them, but not necessarily a romantic one.

Sexual Orientation: The pattern of somebody’s sexual desires. Also sexual identity.

Skoliosexual: A person who is sexually attracted to non-binary people. Can be considered controversial.

Skolioromantic: A person who is romantically interested in non-binary people. Can be considered controversial.

Sapiosexual: A person who is sexually attracted to intelligence regardless of sex, gender identity, or gender expression.

Sapioromantic: A person who is romantically interested in intelligence regardless of sex, gender identity, or gender expression.

Straight: A heterosexual man or woman.

Same Gender Loving: A phrase coined by black queer and LGBTQIAP-etc. communities as an alternative for “gay” and “lesbian” by people who see those as terms of the white community.

Stealth: A word used to refer to either a binary trans person who passes going through the world letting a cisnormative society assume they are cisgender, or occasionally by people with queer sexual and romantic identities who are out in few parts of their life that let a heteronormative society assume they are straight. These people might have partners that they never let anyone know about.


 

Trans Umbrella: A coverall for all gender related identities that are not cisgender.

Transgender: A person whose assigned at birth gender is not the gender they identify as, or not the only gender they identify as. Not always transsexual. Also referred to as trans.

Transsexual: A person whose assigned at birth sex is not the sex they identify as. People who are transsexual are often also transgender.

Trans woman: An AMAB person who identifies as female.

Trans man: An AFAB person who identifies as male.

Transition: The steps that a trans person may go through to either become socially accepted as their true self, or look and feel more comfortable as themselves, living their true self. Also, the steps a binary trans person may go through to pass or go stealth.

Third Gender: A person who identifies with a specific gender that is neither male nor female.

Trigender: A person who identifies with three genders that they may experience, together, separately, and/or in flux.

Transfeminine: A person whose gender feels feminine, but not female. Usually accompanied by feminine presentation. Almost exclusively used by AMAB folk.

Transmasculine: A person whose gender feels masculine, but not male. Usually accompanied by masculine presentation. Almost exclusively used by AFAB folk.

Transandrogynous: A person whose gender feels masculine and feminine, but not male and female. Usually accompanied by androgynous presentation.

Transvestite: A person who derives sexual pleasure from dressing in clothes associated with the opposite sex.

Two-Spirit: Either a Native American or First Nations person who is queer or LGBTQIAP-etc. or a Native American or First Nations person who is both female and male.

They/Them/Their: Common non-binary pronouns.

 

 

Xe/Xem/Xyr: Less common non-binary pronouns.

 

 

Zie(Ze)/Zir/Zirs: Common non-binary pronouns within the queer and LGBTQIAP-etc. community.

Zy/Zys: Less common non-binary pronouns.

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